Seek first to understand, then to be understood. — Stephen Covey Stephen Covey explains that seeking real understanding affirms the other person and what they have to say. He’s not wrong on this one. Every human being desires to feel seen, heard, and understood. So, how do we create space…

This is the simple formula for constant and never-ending improvement (CANI) in anything: do the thing listen to the feedback analyze and assess the feedback adjust and tweak repeat The linchpin of this process is the feedback. Doing something repeatedly, without more, will not help you improve. You may get…

The same wiring that keeps us safe can also keep us small and deplete our confidence. But we can rewire our brain to boost confidence and seize momentum in our success. We are programmed to look for what’s wrong There’s something that I see showing up often in the people around me, and within myself: the way in…

It’s not resolutions. You need this instead. — For the 595th consecutive day, I hit my mark of walking 10,000 steps. Sometimes, 10,000 comes easily. I live in NYC, and my feet are my car. I walk almost everywhere. And there is always the gym. …

Each year I choose 3 words to guide my year. A look at how my 2017 words held up, and what they gave me. — This is Part 1 in a series sharing my lessons and reflections from 2017. The Tradition of My Three Words Since 2011 I have followed Chris Brogan’s tradition of choosing 3 words to guide my year. In the past, I have shared those words publicly on New Year’s Day. I’m not quite ready to reveal my…

The piece that has shaped my year. After returning from my workout on the last Sunday in March, during a 3-week break to reconsider my vision for the year and for the next few years, I sat down and started to write. …

Don’t believe the myth that we all get the same amount of time. — “Time is Running Out” This is the time of year when the scarcity mindset around time surfaces on both sides. On one side is the frenzy of winding down the year: frantic, hectic, hustling, rushing. On the other is the constant messaging asking you how you will “use your time” in the New Year…

3 reasons why you should slow down — The End of Year Rush Even with my deliberate attempts to slow down, I feel the energy of rushing all around me. Everyone is trying to fit in everything before the clock winds down. As if the stroke of midnight on Sunday night is the last call for getting on the boat to 2018. …

What does it mean to “dress for success”? — Here’s a truth I’ve discovered. In the moments we are about to step into our light, a force always comes to pull us back into the dark. And that force, in my life, usually is a parent. Last week, I invited a group of women to my home for the…